Whom to congratulate with DOMA?

On the one hand, you always want to say hooray with people who find their status as rights-holders affirmed. On the other, I think the congratulations should go to the rest of us. DOMA was always a stupid idea, as is state-controlled marriage in the first place, and we’ve wasted far too much time in the public sphere on trying deny people equal status. When are we going to figure out that people don’t put up with it and just stop trying it?